Love is a powerful drug that can be traced back to three simple chemicals: adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.
These neurotransmitters are responsible for the powerful emotions people experience as they begin a new relationship, and can often create sentiments of attachment and belonging between two individuals.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling love-struck or on cloud nine while in a relationship, even years after it first developed.
However, an issue does emerge when a person makes this connection the lone priority and source of joy in their lives. This can happen when someone attempts to internally combat feelings of loneliness stemming from previous rejections or neglect in their life.
If someone surrenders control of their happiness in a relationship, they end up creating a destructive atmosphere by letting their significant other dictate their emotional state.
It’s important to recognize when these situations arise and take the corrective steps necessary for self-restoration. This is an element that has been a personal struggle in recent years, especially after the divorce of my parents and several rocky relationships.
According to psychologist Leon Seltzer, the foundation of happiness is finding joy in personal passions. Although this seems relatively straight- forward, enjoyment in daily life activities can sometimes prove to be a difficult experience following a strenuous breakup or a taxing fight.
It can be tempting to drown sorrows with a pitcher at the Corner Club, but it’s imperative for someone in this situation to get back to doing the activities and interests that make up who they are.
Whether this involves curling up with a book or spending a weekend in the great outdoors, self-care and the pursuit of personal enjoyment are essential components of emotional wellbeing.
It’s OK to be selfish and take some time to focus on yourself and the things you are passionate about, even in a healthy relationship. This prompts self-growth and can provide an opportunity for someone to discover new hobbies or pastimes they might not have previously considered.
Although it is easier said than done, self-love is an imperative element of building healthy relationships with others. It may seem cliche, but you truly cannot love someone else until you first love yourself.
Overcoming emotional dependency may appear to be an arduous task, but it is key to remember that each individual controls the way they feel. It will take time and practice, but finding happiness at the personal level will lead to stronger relationships with others and a healthier outlook on life.
Josh Grissom can be reached at [email protected] or on Twitter @GoshJrissom